I would rather be of intrinsic value to one friend, than to fight to be of extrinsic value to four.
I would rather be irreplaceable to two, than to be interchangeable with eight.
I would rather have one friend stand up for me, and stay standing, than have twelve stand up, to only sit down when the rest of the group does.
I would rather count on three being active in my life, than ten being passive.
I would rather have the quiet confidence in one, than have the public social media fanfare of twenty.
I would rather have three who are consistent, than seven who are not.
I would rather have one who is purposeful, than three who are convenient.
I would rather have two who I can belly laugh with, than four I smile at politely.
I would rather have one who shows their raw and real and messy emotions, than two who back away.
I would rather have two who see me – all of me – and accept me and my faults, rather than five who can’t be bothered.
I would rather feel grounded and connected with three, than feel superfluous with six.
I would rather have one who will challenge me, than three who are superficial.
I would rather have three who make mistakes and are honest, than five who sweep things under the rug.
I would rather have four I can be silly with, than six who appear perfect.
I would rather sit and share in a real way of “give and take” with two, than to fight to be heard or struggle to listen, with seven.
And I would rather have something real and something lasting with one friend, just one friend, than have something fleeting with eight.
You see, the thing is, I would rather be with you.
And I know it can’t always happen. I know life is busy and time is hard. Families are growing and we are in six different directions.
And I would also rather be with you and you and you and you. But I know circumstances don’t allow that on a regular basis.
And I of course would always rather be with you. But time and distance don’t allow that half as often as I need it.
But it doesn’t change the fact … that in this world of 284 social media friends, numbers still mean nothing … because I will unequivocally, with my whole heart, always, rather be with “you”.
So many young women ought to have this as their mantra…to read/say it to themselves every morning when they wake up, whether they agree with it yet or not. Before they delve again into the yearning, searching, weighing and measuring of the “friends” of social media. I may actually talk to you about using this in my work 🙂